Halloween

There’s nothing like Halloween — my favorite holiday, by far.  All that spooky, psychic stuff really gets to me, satiates my appetite for the moribund.

Only problem is, it doesn’t scare me!

What scares me are real people and how far they go.  The really sick ones.  The ones who should be locked away so as not to inflict the pain and suffering they inflict on others.  Unfortunately, it is the victims of these human atrocities who suffer, while they roam freely and plant destruction on their latest target.  The ones who are not strong enough to protect themselves.  The compromised ones.

I am composing a checklist of emotionally abusive personality traits — many are direct from personal experience — others are collected by those others have shared with me.  But the goal is always the same:  to inflict pain and suffering.

They will go to great lengths to do this.

They will destroy your property, for example.  But never hold themselves accountable for their actions.  Because they will always justify their emotional aggression towards you.  You deserved it. That type of thinking.  You know — You made me do it. And so justify their rage towards another human being.  This example may not be that common but it has happened and simply illustrates the degree of hostility these people hold for their victims.

More common examples are demeaning the vulnerable person, demanding the person do something they do not have the ability to do, withholding financial support, and physical comfort, such as heat during the colder months, and food.

I don’t like to use the word victim generally, because I know I am capable of changing, i.e., removing myself from a situation that is abusive.  However, when we are in the midst of this vicious cycle — because it is the same cycle as that of physical abuse — and you are trying to break its grip on you, you are by its very nature a victim, and therefore highly vulnerable.

They will badger you until you can’t get up.

Just because the abuse does not show on the outside, the bruises are there, tucked inside of the psyche and the body and work their magic potion.  This, unfortunately, is exactly what’s wrong about systems that do not recognize emotional abuse as being as deadly as physical abuse.  They are the same in essence.

Emotional abuse   is    physical abuse.

Not only does the mind suffer but so does the body, and especially if you are already predisposed to suffering states of mind, which the abuser is fully aware of, and uses to his or her advantage.

Some people don’t need to decorate their houses for Halloween.  You may not know it, but when a trick-or-treater knocks on a door, they may be knocking on the Door of Hell, despite the smile that greets them there, to help them enjoy their holiday.